the man in the mirror....
It's about me, you, and about ourselves. The deepest own self.
When is the moment you find yourself closest to the real you?
The real you meant here is the version of yourself being the genuine you even when other people are around. It is the core qualities you carried within you wherever you go, and yea, you don't have to pretend to be someone, you are just being yourself.
Being yourself doesn't mean not changing and not correcting your characters and attitude anymore. It means that you are feeling comfortable at your own pace no matter you are in what situations and surroundings.
As we are growing up, we are told to be strong, guard up, don't shed a tear, do not let the others see our weaknesses. These are the teachings from the others had on us, and we have been carrying them since young. The messages were planted deep down in our mind.
"This is the way it should be... I think... I'm a man, it's so cowardice to cry."
"I should behave how my parent's want, to be loved by them."
"I don't deserve a loving family...right?"
"I have to work hard and success in life, if not, I'm gonna be a failure."
"I have to be in the in-group, if not, people will look down at me and be left out forever."
Mask on. Day by day. Year by year.
We seems to forgot how to behave in our nature way of being....our real self. It may be very subtle to catch how we really feel about ourselves after carrying the identities for a long time. We have forgotten the feeling of being genuine to ourselves and.. to others.
The thoughts that are carried along with us in our deep down, guiding us on how we behave, think and react. The thoughts could be come from an advice from the elder, a lesson from your experience, a teaching since young or the material you have been reading. The lessons and words we learnt all these while, have formed a great system of thinking and belief in us, to some extend we are not aware of it.
But do the thoughts and beliefs we are having, are 100% correct?
Not really seems like...
They are more profound than we think. We think we own our mind, but is actually the other way around most of the time to most of the people. As we have this level in our mind, called the subconscious level. The subtle level where we seldom notice but guiding most of our decisions.
Subconscious level stores informations we receive unaware in everyday life. Then, they will be stored there for months and years without our consciousness on them. Can you imagine, if there was one belief you have been carrying since young, is a destruction to your life?
A well-known Austrian neurologist, Sigmund Frued said, 'You are your thoughts'. To some extend, the statement was right to his research on the influence of subconscious mind on human behavior.
However, if we are aware on the beliefs and thoughts that are settling in the subconscious mind, they can't no longer influencing us if we chose to eliminate the destructive thoughts, where 'You are not your thoughts' take place. We decide what to receive and what to be eliminated from our mind if we pay attention on it.
So, can you reflect back on your behavior thinking and beliefs which have been influencing you for a long time, and you are unaware or repressing it to your subconscious level?
Thoughts, Beliefs, Emotions, Feelings. These are the elements most easily hidden and suppressed deep down in mind.
Darling, it's time to release them, face it
and declutter the mind.
It's never too late to be yourself. No more labels, but only you.
Looking into the eyes, perhaps you are more than just a man in the mirror...
I hereby attached a digital book (Eng.ver) for you as a reference in helping mind clearing.
'If I am what I have, if what I have is lost, then Who am I?' -------Erich Fromm
(to have or to be?)
Thanks for reading.
See you next time.
